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Single Parent Dating Tips

Who says that a single parent cannot go out on his or her own and have a good time once in a while?  Whoever says that is dead wrong!  Not only are single parents allowed to have time to themselves sometimes (for going out with friends, having a night alone, etc), single parents should make sure to take time for themselves once in a while. 

Most single parents, especially those newly single, think that taking time for themselves is selfish and that, instead, they should revolve their entire lives around their children.  The truth is that kids need well rounded parents who also have their own lives-it is those “outside” lives that your kids will look to for examples of how to act when they are adults.  So-it is absolutely, 100% okay to date as a single parent.  Here are some single parent dating tips to help you get started.

Honesty is the Best Policy

When single parenting is new, your kids might feel nervous or even resentful of the time you spend away from them.  Be honest with them and tell your kids that while they are your very top priority, you also need some time to yourself so that you can continue being a good Mom or Dad.  Make sure that they know that they are first on your list and that their needs come first.  It is also a good idea to spell out that you are not trying to replace their other parent.  A lot of kids get scared at the idea of having a potential step parent around, so make sure that your kids understand that such a scenario is a long way off and that you will make sure that their relationship with their other parent does not get compromised.

Honesty is Good For Dates Too

More single parent dating tips is never let your date assume that you do not have kids.  Sadly, being a single parent is no longer rare in our society but some might feel blindsided if, after dating a while, you suddenly tell them that you have kids.  You don’t have to get your kids and your date together right away (in fact, sometimes that is a down right bad idea), but be honest.  Tell your date that you are a Mom or a Dad and leave it at that.  You can tell your date more about your kids as you get to know each other. 

Do Not Rush Things

There is no reason to invite a first date to a day with your kids.  In fact, it is a good idea to keep them separate until you and your date know how you feel about each other.  If you think that you could get serious with the person then, by all means, introduce him/her to your kids.  But do not force relationships until you are certain that those relationships will last for a while!

Pieter West travels the world on a regular basis and have written about numerous subjects. He has an extensive knowledge about, finances, DIY, parenting advice and many more subjects.

January 20, 2012
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For Single Parents

For Single Parents
Being a single parent is not an easy job in this challenging world. Yet people who take up such challenges despite all the problems they face make it to bringing up a good child. The social barriers even in the modern times create a few problems though. Difficult it might be to bring up a child against all the odds but it isnt something impossible. If carefully planned and expertly executed you can handle all the responsibilities of your child single headedly with ease. Read on to find out some excellent parenting advice specially written for single parents.

The first thing good parenting requires is to pen down all the responsibilities and commitments you have to handle for a particular day. Be it work, friends, family or a\other activities make sure nothing skips the list. Now analyse this list and prioritise the work. All check if you can avoid some of the things on the list and thus dedicate more time to other more important tasks. Re plan the schedule and then go ahead with the days activities. Maintaining weekly calendars to jot down activities is also a good idea. Just make sure that you follow the plan to the letter.

If you are a single parent and also working you will need to hire someone to take care of your child in your absence. IT can be anyone day-care, grandparents, friends, family, etc just make sure you entrust someone with the prime responsibility of handling your child during your office hours. Also make sure that you keep more than just one option open so that if one cant make it someday due to unavoidable circumstances the other takes his/her place.

Part of good parenting is giving your little one sometime. Take your kids out at least once a week. Spend some quality time with them. Speak to them as a friend play with them. This is a very essential part of your parenting skills. Quality time with your kids is always a memorable thing. Also try to get your schedule changed at office from time to time. This might bring a wide grin on your childrens faces.

Disciplining children is also very important as childrens with single parents are much more vulnerable than others. Make sure you keep a watch over your children. Monitor their academics and every other activity to be aware off all they do. Keep checking to make sure they are on the right track. Speaking to your childs teacher once in a while is a good idea. You not only get an idea of how your child is doing at academics but also get to know if their behaviour at school is as it should be.

Keep encouraging your child at all his successes and defeats. Positive parenting is all about trusting your kid and motivating him to keep trying harder. Do not hesitate in praising them for their achievements. In fact it is a good idea to celebrate the smallest success of your kid. It motivates them to do even better the next time. Just be confident and you will be able to raise your kid as good as any other parent.

December 10, 2011
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