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Being a Good Parent

Being a Good Parent

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs to do. Just ask any parents out there. It is a responsibility that you have to do for the rest of your life and it is also the most rewarding as well. Looking at your own child with love is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world. There is no greater feeling than holding your own child in your arms and taking care of it.

What is a good parent? This question seems hard to answer because the most obvious answer is not enough. Yes it is not enough that you support your child and take care of it. It is not enough that as a parent you provide for them and give them the best in life. After all, you are responsible for the growth of a human being emotionally, physically and spirituality. There are many factors that you have to do make it the best and happiest person there is.

If there is one thing that you can do as a parent is that you need to let your children express themselves.

By letting themselves express freely, they can find their own individuality. It can make them be the best in what they want to do and can make them unique. You can do that by even doing some simple things like letting them wear the clothes they want to wear, no matter how ridiculous those clothes are.

One example is when your child love rock and roll music. I know this type of music may be not main stream and they look absolutely ridiculous. But if it makes your children happy then by all means support them. You can buy skull baby clothes for your toddler. Don’t worry though because these clothes are made of 100% cotton so you are sure that it is safe for your kids. This is a fun way for them to dress up and to express themselves. If you want other designs you can try skull and crossbones baby clothes.

These clothes would surely make your children be more creative and happier when they can wear something they want. Who knows, you might have a future rock star in the family.

It is not hard to find these types of clothes. You can check your local children’s clothing store if you want. If you want to, you can also order them online. It is actually better if you do that because you can shop at the comforts of your own home. You need to be careful though because you need to make sure that size is right and the quality of the materials as well. Stick to the site that you trust and just order clothes from them.

There’s more to it than being a parent. It is one of the most rewarding jobs that you’ll experience. Raising a child is something hard to do but if you do it the right way, they benefits you get is tremendous and you can start doing that by letting your kids express themselves freely. Try it now and you’ll see how it can affect them.

Brenna A. Welker enjoys writing for Crazy Baby Clothing Company which sells skull baby clothes and skull and crossbones baby clothes as well as a host of additional products.

February 20, 2012
Parenting
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Parent Child Relationships

Parent Child Relationships
This article simply expresses my own thoughts and ideas on parent child relationships. It is certainly an intelligent dissertation based on my own education and experience. I would not however use my beliefs to counter anyone elses beliefs. Relationships are not exact and cant be approached with formulas which might work for mathematical equations and scientific experiments. Relationships are personal and there are too many variables involved for me to attempt to dictate what yours should be. Lets keep those thoughts in mind as we go forward.

The parent child relationship of different types of parents varies based on established social mores. Korean parents will not have the same relationship as urban Americans regardless of their race. Parents who lived four or five centuries ago certainly didnt have the same type of relationship with their children as parents today. The idea of what is normal is established by the mores of the society that the families exist in.

I feel that the most important aspect of the parent child relationship is that the child should trust the parent implicitly. The child may not like every decision that the parent makes but he or she needs to know that all decisions are made with their well being in mind. The parent should play additional roles as the childs mentor, disciplinarian, and guide. Discipline is essential because the child needs to know that there are bounds which cant be crossed in life. In other words it is imperative that the child learns in its formative years that it cant do whatever it wants to do. The parent however must recognize that the child needs room to explore and learn. Too many times we hinder the development of our children by being too strict as disciplinarians.

The child must learn at an early age to trust the parent as a mentor and guide. Confidence must be established. The child can only learn these things by observation. Many times parents think that their job is to give orders or administer commands and to expect blind obedience. The parent must set the established standard by setting the example for the child to follow. The parent who tells the child to go clean his or her room must use their own room as the standard. Anything less only confuses the child. Children will quickly learn to evaluate the words that the parent speaks. Children learn whether to use parents or grandparents to get what they want. They learn which behaviors will elicit the response that they want. We as parents must learn to be careful in our relationship with our children. We must learn to be loving but objective at the same time. We must objectively evaluate our own behaviors as well as those of our children and adjust them as required.

The most difficult parental role is that of the step parent. The natural spouse can make the step parent effective in their relationship with the child or children or they can totally sabotage the relationship based on the amount of support that they give. The mother who has been with her children as a single parent for a long period of time must be very careful not to undermine the step dad in his establishment of authority in the household, especially if the children are male and older.

Many say that the parent must also be a friend and I agree, however the parent must be a parent and disciplinarian first of all. The parents with whom the child resides must be the bigger disciplinarians because they child will get the majority of their socialization and ideals about life from what they observe at home. The Good Life

February 1, 2012
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