A Journey in Secular Parenting

An Effective Parenting

An Effective Parenting

Everything in life goes through a step by step process from conception until death. In each step, there are different roles to be fulfilled. One of these roles when you reach adulthood is parenting in which it entails proper guidance, wisdom and principles to mold the children and bring good influence to their lives. The child learns first at home therefore, good parenting must be practiced so that the child will also develop a better self in the future equipped with good attitude, behavior, morale and self-concept. This is the sole responsibility of parents when it comes to bringing up children in the way they should be.

Parenting is a complex responsibility. It does not end just by giving birth. The process goes on as the child grows. The child needs to be nurtured from birth until time will come that the child can already go on his own. The primary role of a parent is to provide the child the nourishment that he needs physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Being a good parent promotes effective mother-father-child relationship. For this reason, the child will grow as an effective individual in the society with good outlook in life as he was taught to be developing good habits and attitude or behavior. Most of the parents wanted their children to have a bright future and live a good life on their own when the right time comes. This is the main concern of parents once the child is born. There must be some strategies or methods to be followed to ensure an effective parenting and achieve those goals for the child.

First and foremost, a parent must be a good example to the child. Be a role model to your children. If you have a positive outlook in life, most probably your child will also do the same.

Set constant rules. Give appropriate reasons for everything so that the child will understand it well. If you will restrict him to do something, explain to him why so that he will be able to know. Next, give time to your child to express about himself. Give him chance to show what he can do and what he thinks. This will boost his confidence and ego. Just make sure that he will not hurt anybody including himself. If the child is your second, third or fourth baby, never ever compare them with each other. Each child has different innate characteristics and way of thinking. The child might feel inferiority if he is being treated less compared to his other siblings and this might affect his entire life. Lastly, do not throw threats to your child. The primary fear of a child is abandonment by the parents. An effective parenting does not develop fear in their children’s heart and mind. A child has simple thinking. A child believes everything parents would say so do not threaten him because he might take your threat seriously even if you didn’t mean it to happen. Parenting is a crucial role. Therefore, have an effective method that will help you nurture your child to become a good citizen in the future.

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Parent Child Relationships

Parent Child Relationships
This article simply expresses my own thoughts and ideas on parent child relationships. It is certainly an intelligent dissertation based on my own education and experience. I would not however use my beliefs to counter anyone elses beliefs. Relationships are not exact and cant be approached with formulas which might work for mathematical equations and scientific experiments. Relationships are personal and there are too many variables involved for me to attempt to dictate what yours should be. Lets keep those thoughts in mind as we go forward.

The parent child relationship of different types of parents varies based on established social mores. Korean parents will not have the same relationship as urban Americans regardless of their race. Parents who lived four or five centuries ago certainly didnt have the same type of relationship with their children as parents today. The idea of what is normal is established by the mores of the society that the families exist in.

I feel that the most important aspect of the parent child relationship is that the child should trust the parent implicitly. The child may not like every decision that the parent makes but he or she needs to know that all decisions are made with their well being in mind. The parent should play additional roles as the childs mentor, disciplinarian, and guide. Discipline is essential because the child needs to know that there are bounds which cant be crossed in life. In other words it is imperative that the child learns in its formative years that it cant do whatever it wants to do. The parent however must recognize that the child needs room to explore and learn. Too many times we hinder the development of our children by being too strict as disciplinarians.

The child must learn at an early age to trust the parent as a mentor and guide. Confidence must be established. The child can only learn these things by observation. Many times parents think that their job is to give orders or administer commands and to expect blind obedience. The parent must set the established standard by setting the example for the child to follow. The parent who tells the child to go clean his or her room must use their own room as the standard. Anything less only confuses the child. Children will quickly learn to evaluate the words that the parent speaks. Children learn whether to use parents or grandparents to get what they want. They learn which behaviors will elicit the response that they want. We as parents must learn to be careful in our relationship with our children. We must learn to be loving but objective at the same time. We must objectively evaluate our own behaviors as well as those of our children and adjust them as required.

The most difficult parental role is that of the step parent. The natural spouse can make the step parent effective in their relationship with the child or children or they can totally sabotage the relationship based on the amount of support that they give. The mother who has been with her children as a single parent for a long period of time must be very careful not to undermine the step dad in his establishment of authority in the household, especially if the children are male and older.

Many say that the parent must also be a friend and I agree, however the parent must be a parent and disciplinarian first of all. The parents with whom the child resides must be the bigger disciplinarians because they child will get the majority of their socialization and ideals about life from what they observe at home. The Good Life